When was the last time you considered the biggest challenge to unconditional love? What is unconditional love, anyway? Most people I know and those in my circle of influence all believe in love. I suspect that, you like me, have heard and maybe even felt, “If there was just more love in the world things would be better.” Most people think things like… fear, hate or anger are the biggest blocks. Could it be possible that we want something that we have not fully come to understand?
Why does everyone want it in the first place? What are the aspects that make it up? How can you tell when you are experiencing it? How do you do it?
Everyone wants it because they think that if it is there, everything will be better and if everything is better; then I can feel good. So the bottom line is the end result is always the same, you or I, the individual, will feel better.
Unconditional love is actually a foreign concept to those who want to experience it. Because it is unconditional, without limits and no limits means no boundaries and no boundaries (freedom) means redefining everything we’ve defined. What most don’t realize is when there are no conditions everything is included, including those thing we label as not love, i.e. fear, anger, hate, negative emotions, etc.
One of the big reasons it is a foreign concept is, people that believe in the concept do the main thing they were asked not to do and they do it without a second thought. So what is the one thing that people do that blocks them from having what they really want? They make judgments. That’s right we judge things as right/wrong, good/bad. But take heart, that doesn’t make you or me a bad person only, less loving.
And besides judgments causes us to feel bad and makes it hard to feel better. Where calibration notices the bad feeling doesn’t reject or resist it and simply looks to where you want to go which feels a lot better and easily moves closer to where we want to be, do or have which naturally feels better. And that’s what we want isn’t it?
Some of the less than useful things judgments do is they create separation. Making us think that this is better than that and it will always be so. Judgments do not take into consideration where you are going only that you line up with where you have been. Judgments take a soft measurement (calibration) and make it a hard and fast rule. And life, i.e. freedom has only one rule it follows… movement also called constant change. And like my Grampa Vetter would say, “The only thing we can count on is change, except from a vending machine.
If you or I were driving to the store and we applied judgment instead of calibration we would hardly ever get to the store and probably have a wreck, because we would have judged every action in this trip and attempt to line it up exactly with the last trip. All the while ignoring all the current information we are receiving as we are driving to the store, because we have already determined “the right way to do it”.
Our dedication to making judgments creates the biggest challenge to what we want and that is… The biggest challenge to unconditional love is not fear, hate or anger; it is conditional love. Conditional love separates instead of includes. Conditional love is not really love it is more of “I trade you”. If you make me feel better, I’ll make you feel better is the bases of conditional love and that is nothing like unconditional love.
To Your Best,
Doc Houston
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